WELL...ITS A MATTER OF CUSTODY

One of our Professors Mr. Sanjay Ranade, recently had a discussion with us regarding the increase in the number of divorce cases in the city, wherein he mentioned that couples nowadays demand more space and privacy. They spend more time with their colleagues than their spouses. However, this lifestyle of theirs has a great impact on their married lives, but they do not communicate at all. Bandra Family Court admits around 100 divorce applications every month. However, the reason behind such application is mostly adultery, desertion, etc. Number of such divorce cases being filed in 2014 was 3,120.

Except for the couples who are not the parents, the very next thing that the other couples fight for is the custody of their child. The divorce cases that were filed for child custody in 2014 were 118.  Couples, even before getting divorced start deciding that whose custody will be the child in. Thus, taking away the Right of the child to be in association of both of his/her parents. This also has a psychological effect on the child.  There are some cases wherein the couples do not get divorced but they get separated and usually the wife takes away the child. The same is the case of Deepak, who lives in Vashi. Both he and his wife got separated last year when their daughter was 5 years old. It is very natural for a 5 year old child to stubborn to meet her father, but Deepak as father doesn’t want to meet her and his wife wishes the same. Now, this creates a major problem for the child wherein she is compelled to hate her father because her mother wants so.

Aarti and Rakesh who have 2 sons, got separated 1 year ago when Aarti’s husband and her in laws threw her out of the house. Now, the elder son lives with Rakesh and the younger one with Aarti, though both children seem to be unhappy and hate their parents. There are also many children who don’t wish to get married... when asked why... they give the reference of their parent’s unsuccessful marriage

Recently, an assistant professor of ICFAI committed a suicide and brutally killed his two children.  This shows that how severe can be the outcomes of failed marriages. In many of the cases where children stay away from their parents, these children are either very less attached or not at all attached to their parents. However, this does not happen  in a day or a two but it is just a form of psychological impact that gets developed within years as children grow up.

It is not only the violent games that are impacting your child’s brain but also the kind of environment that he/she is living in....our parents gave up whole of their lives working for us...why can’t we just give up our lifestyles for our children????

Posted by- Pandey Kavita

MACJ, PART-I